I believe that everyone has had at least one blessed moment in their life. These moments show up unexpected, short and sweet. I shared with you one Blessed Moment in my life in a recent post, ”A Blessed Moment.” If you haven’t read it already, you may want to click the link and lake a look.

We’d all love to have more of these moments, I’m sure.

How do they come about? Is it possible for us to bring them about? Is there a tool chest we can turn to for this quest?

The simple answer is YES, there are specific “tools” that can bring these moments about and we will get to know these tools one by one.

Our ability to afford others security, safe space, empowerment and other enabling and motivating themes creates the same for ourselves, in turn. What goes around comes around, tenfold!

The first and foremost basis for any relationship is trust. But there are other areas where trust is of paramount importance for things to happen. Some examples are: a patient undergoing surgery, tandem skydiving and bungee jumping.

What are the benefits of trust?

Here is a “short list.” I’m sure you can think of more:

1. The trusting side can:
•  Grow and flourish, receiving all of the available benefit, just because there is trust.
• Feel secure to learn with no threat of being judged or ridiculed.
2. The trusted party is:
• Motivated to deliver at their best by the demonstrated trust.
• Also empowered by the trust.
3. The relationship becomes:
• More stable.
• More supportive.

What builds trust?

Let’s see some important “makers” of trust:

1. The ability to deliver. Whether it be Love, Compassion, Expertise or any specific thing – there must be a reason for us to apply trust, or it becomes irrelevant, blind trust which does not linger.
2. Consistency or what we call a “track record.” It must be recognized that this ability to deliver is also effected on a consistent basis that can be depended upon.
3. Empathy. For Trust to happen there needs to be a feeling of security with regard to the trusted party.
4. Communication. There must be open and clear communication between the owner and the recipient of trust. For trust to persist we must establish routines and procedures for the resolution of any hitches that might just show up.
5. Knowledge. There are some things that the trusting party must know for trust to exist. Some examples are:
• The trusted party will always act in their best interest.
• The trusted party will always have their welfare in mind.

Trust is also that fragile thing that when broken, becomes very hard to reinstate. There are many quotes, sayings, stories and fables describing and explaining trust and how it works. Here are two I thought are quite insightful:

He, who does not trust enough, will not be trusted. - Lao Tzu

Trust is like a porcelain vase: Once broken, although you can fix it, the vase will never be same again. - Unknown

With regard to Blessed moments, we have reviewed some of the aspects of trust.

Build trust – the returns are endless.